A few days back, I was a bit anxious and unsure of the reason I called my mother.While talking with her, I started complaining about my husband.
Even though he helps me in the kitchen, he makes it a mess.
Even though he helps me in doing the laundry, he does not organize his wardrobe.
Even though he does the grocery shopping, he does not refill the containers. Etc. etc.
After 5 mins of listening to my rants, she shouted – STOP. Then she took a deep breath and calmly explained:
How can you be so thankless? How can you not acknowledge his help? How can you not appreciate him?
I know that both genders are equal; he should be helping you. But how many people out there support this mindset. You should be grateful to God that he is doing all these by himself, even without you asking him to do so.
The issue prevails with your generation. You girls have forgotten to be content with what you have. You expect too much from your partner.
Always remember to RESPECT, VALUE, and TREASURE.
After this telephonic conversion, I started contemplating my mother’s words. I understood where I was going wrong. The negative thoughts in my mind were making our relationship as well as the environment toxic. Rather than being happy, I was finding faults in him. I jotted down the positive things he has done for me. He had left a flourishing career at Bangalore and moved to Pune so that I won’t compromise my career choices. He has also encouraged me to pursue my hobbies. Moreover, without his help, I would not have survived this lockdown.
These days I have started practicing the 3 A’s myself.
Now I appreciate, admire, and acknowledge his efforts. And this has indeed strengthened our bonding.
Really. Not every husband does this, even now a days
ReplyDeleteYes. I have seen many of friends and acquaintances struggling to manage the household chores.
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